For the Tired Mom

Let’s just admit it. We all have our moments. Motherhood brings joy like nothing else on planet earth, but along with the cooing and cuddles comes tantrums and night terrors. As the little dumplings grow, there’s back talk, eye rolling, and the occasional huff and puff that has to be wrangled and set on the right path. It’s hard work being a mom. Truly, it’s exhausting!

I’ll be the first to confess I take perfectly normal days and make complete motherhood messes that I would rather forget. I start out with really good intentions. I get up early, drink enough coffee to give even the most exhausted elephant energy, and I convince myself that I’m going to be upbeat, fun, and pleasant. By the time breakfast is on the table, I’m barking out orders.

“One bite at a time!”

“Don’t spill your milk.”

“Chew with your mouth closed.”

“No smacking!”

With each command, my back gets straighter, my jaw gets tighter and I can literally feel the irritation crawling up my spine. Thankfully, this doesn’t happen every day, but when I really let my hair down I’m sure I look like the incredible hulk on steroids.

It takes a lot to get my mind, attitude, and actions on track each day. I don’t wake up like Mary Poppins, although I would like to think I do. If I could snap my fingers and make the house sparkle maybe I would be a bit more “fun” like her, but I don’t measure up no matter how many times I sing “A Spoon Full of Sugar Helps the Medicine Go Down.”

What does a tired woman do when the day in day out of life makes irritation rise at the first sound of her name being hollered by a child from the bathroom?

“Mom! Come wipe me!”

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Truly I am so thankful for the amazing gifts of God that live under my roof, but motherhood has brought a completely new challenge when it comes to my attitude.

So here’s a little encouragement for all the moms who have the occasional or daily attitude upheaval:

1. Smile. Yes, right now. You’re beautiful!

It’s amazing how rarely people smile anymore. Be one of the few that brighten the room especially in your own home. Your children will thank you and they will probably smile back.

A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed. Proverbs 15:13(ESV)

2. Breathe.

Seriously. Deep breaths do something to the brain. It just feels good to take a few slow deep breaths.

3. Be thankful.

Think of something or someone you can be thankful for today. Express your thankfulness through a text or kind written or spoken word.

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. I Thessalonians 5:18(ESV)

4. Tell someone about the good parts of motherhood.

It’s easy to discuss the potty problems, mommy wars, playground saga, and diaper dilemma. But what about the first moment you saw your precious peanut in the womb or felt tiny arms wrap around your neck? What about the sweet little I love yous after you totally acted like a crazy dragon? Motherhood is the most glorious of roles. It’s the only role where you can fail miserably and be completely encouraged and convicted by a two-year old all in one minute.

Be encouraged, Mom. You’re doing a good job! I know you’re tired. No matter what season of motherhood you are in right now, let’s all remember to smile, breathe, be thankful, and share the good parts of motherhood. I’ll go first. Today, I’m thankful for a 10-year-old who still sits in my lap, and likes to clean the toilet. Yes, you read that right, the toilet. Now, it’s your turn! Go!

Love & Blessings,

Micah

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5 Things Your Depressed Friend Wants You To Know

Depression affects millions of women every year and women are twice as likely as men to get depressed. If you know someone who you think might be depressed or is going through a rough season of life, encourage them. You never know how your simple act of kindness will impact them. Women who are depressed often feel lonely and isolated like they are the only one dealing with depression. According to statistics, depressed women are all around us. They sit at the park, go to the grocery store, fill our church pews, serve in leadership, and teach our children. I’ve personally walked through the valley of depression and know what it feels like to think I am the only Christian on planet earth who is struggling in this way. I hope you will find help and encouragement here to help if you or someone you love is walking this difficult journey.

1. She wants to feel normal, and would snap out of it if she could.

If your depressed friend could feel better, she would!

2. She needs a friend to say, “You’re going to be okay.”

Sometimes saying nothing at all is interpreted as, “I don’t care enough to really talk about your problems.” Let your friend know you are interested in her and her life.

3. She doesn’t want you to fix it. She just wants someone to listen and be her friend.

Don’t try to make her explain what she is going through. Just be there and offer a listening ear. Love her.

4. Just because she smiles, laughs, and has a good day doesn’t necessarily mean everything is better.
So you finally work out a time for a girls night out and you have a fabulous time. Your friend, who you know is going through a rough patch, laughs, joins in the conversation, and acts like her old self again. You assume she’s overcome depression and go on with life as usual. The problem is that many times depression ebbs and flows. She can have a good day sandwiched between really difficult days. Be sensitive.

5. She doesn’t want you to feel sorry for her. She wants someone to genuinely care about her.

Your friend needs to know you love her just the way she is and that you care. She wants you to pray for her, listen to her, tell her the truth, and encourage her. Simple ways to encourage her:

Write a note
Send a “thinking of you” text
Invite her out and help arrange the details (where to go, childcare, transportation…)
Drop off fresh flowers
Make her dinner
Give her a gift

Simple acts of love show her that she is important when the enemy is telling her that no one cares about her. Your kind deed might be the one thing that helps her through the day.

Who in your life can you encourage today? Even if none of your friends are depressed, all of these things will work in any friendship.

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. John 13:35(ESV)

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Love & Blessings,

Micah

What would you add to the list? I would love to hear your thoughts!

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Giving God Praise In Painful Places

I’m thrilled to be a guest on my dear friend Leigh Ellen’s blog today!

Help! Life is Out of Hand!

Life was getting way out of hand. I was doing all I knew to do. I read my Bible everyday. I prayed. And prayed some more. I was active in my local church and tried to help people in need. Truly, I was checking off all the boxes that a good Christian should.

When my circumstances became more than I could bear, I could not understand why God would allow such chaos in my life. My heart ached over my father in law’s diagnosis. My mind rattled with the things my daughter was enduring at a Christian school. My stomach churned over the decisions me and my husband needed to make. And if that wasn’t enough, I was dealing with a situation from my past that had me completely torn up inside.

It was too much. Read entire post HERE

Giveaway of American Woman’s Bible

I am delighted to be giving away one FREE copy of the American Woman’s Bible! One lucky winner will win their choice of the hard-back copy valued at $34.99 or the leather-bound copy valued at $59.99. Both are beautiful and either would be a treasured book of spiritual insights and historical nuggets of wisdom and truth.

The American Women’s Bible is a newly released Bible from Thomas Nelson. This New King James version Bible includes beautiful quotes from many of the amazing women who were instrumental in America’s Christian history. Tucked in each book you will find quotes from women like Louisa May Alcott, Elisabeth Elliot, Eleanor Roosevelt, Corrie Ten Boom, Martha Washington, and many more! You will also be encouraged by short biographies of some of these women learning key points about why their lives were recorded in American history.

You will see how the Bible played a part in some of these women’s lives and the beautiful way God impacted them and in turn how they impacted America. It’s truly beautiful!

As you read the Bible, and glean from the women in our history, you will be enlightened, encouraged, and challenged to be the best woman you can be!

This would be a lovely resource to have on your bookshelf, coffee table, or home school classroom to glean truth from God’s Word along with history of American women. What a wonderful way to teach our children about America and the way women played an important part of our foundation and freedom.

I hope you win! Enter below! I will announce the winner on my Facebook Page Saturday, June 18, 2016.

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Love & Blessings,

Micah

10 Things Every Wife Needs to Hear From Her Husband

Life isn’t always like the movies. Even the best relationships have their down days. This list is for you to share with your spouse. I know it might sound strange to give your husband a list of things you want him to say to you, but sometimes husbands wish they knew what their wife wanted them to say. Have you ever looked at your husband and wished he would say something sweet, kind, or at least say something at all?

Rather than expecting your husband to sift through the signals of what you are really trying to say, try saying what you really mean. I’m learning this is super effective in communicating in marriage.

Print this list and slip it in a place your husband will find it, or send him this link so he can read it for himself and come up with his own way of saying something thoughtful. I know it sounds silly, but trust me, your husband will thank you for giving him a little more clarity on what you really need to hear from him.

Some of the questions on the list might require eye contact, a conversation, or an embrace without any expectations.

So here you go!

10 Things Every Wife Needs

I’m sure you have things you would like to add to this list so please do so by leaving your ideas in the comments below.

I hope you have a great week and if you find that this list is helpful, pass it on to a friend!

Love & Blessings,

Micah