10 Things Not to Say to a Depressed Woman

If you missed the series HOPE FOR THE DEPRESSED WOMAN you can find the links here:
Week 1: Slow Down
Week 2: Breaking the Silence
Week 3: Medication or Meditation
Week 4: Triggers and Tips for Success
Week 5: Running Away Sounds Divine

It can be difficult to know what to say to someone who is hurting. It complicates things even more if the person does not want help or does not realize what is wrong. Although your first reaction might be to set them straight and give them a pep talk, there are a few things to avoid saying to a woman who is experiencing depression.

1. What is wrong with you?

If she knew what was wrong she would get the help she needs and be on the right track toward healing.

2. Snap out of it!

If she could, she would.

3. You need to cheer up.

Obviously.

4. You need to get right with God.

While this might be the case, many times depression is caused by a physical imbalance not a spiritual one.

5. If you would read your Bible and pray you would feel better.

Many depressed women go to bed and wake up begging God for relief.

6. You need to be strong.

Strength does not heal depression, but it might help with your next workout.

7. Your family needs you.

Guilt is already filling her thoughts. A guilt trip by a loved one or a well-meaning friend will only hurt an already tender soul.

8. You have got to get over this.

If she could get over it, she would.

9. You are crazy.

She already feels this way. Calling names and labeling her will only induce more pain.

10. Christians do not get depressed.

This is simply not true.

I know Jesus as my personal Savior. I have been a Christ follower for over 25 years. I have felt His peace that passes understanding. I have seen Him answer prayers and I have felt the power of the Holy Spirit of God. I am a Christian and I have walked through the valley of depression.

When you have someone in your life who is in a dark valley, please be careful what you say. Words are powerful. They can encourage, uplift and refresh or they can cut down, belittle and wound deeply. Be patient. Be kind. Love.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21a(KJV)

There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18(NASB)

Join me next week as we talk about “What TO Say to a Depressed Woman.”

I would love for you to share your ideas of what NOT to say to a depressed woman in the comments below. Let’s share hope with hurting women!

Love & Blessings,

Micah

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